episode 4: ritual of not wanting the tea
In this episode, I share the raw, tender truth of being single for nearly a decade. This story is one of quiet sovereignty. I unpack the doubts I've carried, the compromises I've made, and the deep clarity I've gained. From choosing dignity over desperation to realizing I simply don’t want what’s being offered, this conversation is about what partnership means on my own terms.
Here’s the episode outline:
Reflection 1 - Is there something wrong with me?
I’d rather be wrong by my standards than be right by someone else’s standards
Not wanting kids
Is it really about right and wrong?
Reflection 2 - Everyone else is doing this, so shouldn't I? Going against the grain.
Reflection 3 - Loneliness
Reflection 4 - Do I hate men?
Reflection 5 - Regrets from the past. Will I regret it in the future?
Reflection 6 - Love isn't enough
Reflection 7 - Dreams of my ancestors
Reflection 8 - It get’s easier with time
Ritual of not wanting the tea
Sometimes we want a beautiful coffee instead :)
Nothing wrong with tea, but sometimes it’s just not what we want
ritual of not wanting the tea
A Journaling Practice + Action Steps
What tea is being offered (or is standard practice or that is normal or common place or systemic or traditional or cultural) that you don’t want anything to do with?
What do you think you hate about your own unique path?
this could be a path you’ve already taken or a path you want to take or a path your jealous about someone else taking
See reflection 4 for an example of what this means
What do you think you hate about the path you didn’t take?
See reflection 4 for an example of what this means
What would you do instead, if you let yourself not want this tea?
Who would you be, if you let yourself not want this tea?
Can you do one small action in this direction today?
This week?
This month?
Emphasis on the word small! It has to be a small step. Do not try to take big steps.
until next time,
may you love the dignity of going your own way.
Dilshad