episode 2: identifying your inner dignity abuser
In this episode, I dive into how my inner dialogue nearly led me to abandon my dignity while starting this podcast. Through self-doubt and limiting beliefs, I almost let fear dictate my actions. But I also share how I turned it around, honored my dignity, and created space for my authentic voice. This episode is an in-depth look at how we harm and help our own dignity, and how to navigate these feelings, especially when embarking on something new.
Here’s the episode outline:
15 (yes 15!) core negative, cruel, and projection-based beliefs that hurt my dignity while starting this podcast
15 analyses that supported my esteem and inner grace while creating this podcast
Is it really a limiting belief? Or is it a fact? Or a survival instinct? Or a witch wound?
Avoiding something won’t make it go away or not manifest in your life
The real reason we think we're being cringey or cheesy
How conventional self-development advice can unintentionally harm your integrity
The importance of going slow to go fast in embodying your nobility
A journaling practice to help you catch thoughts and beliefs that harm your dignity
A journaling + action practice to help you honor and expand your dignity (aka alignment before action!)
The absolutely gorgeous, abundant, and massive rose bush on my patio
It’s atleast 6 feet tall!
the beliefs mentioned in this episode:
Who am I to do this?
Does the world need one more podcast? One more person with a microphone?
I don’t want to add to the noise
Everyone will hate me and leave me very bad reviews
Nobody appreciates complexity anymore and they want short form content. I mean who wants to do ritual anyway?
People just want new agey things. they dont want grounded spirituality
Ughhh this is so stupid
I’m just going to embarass myself
Nobody wants audio they just want video
Will anyone listen to a brown woman’s podcast?
Is my branding too dark? Are people going to think its too much? People like over exposed photos especially in the spiritual world lol
Is my branding too feminine will it put off men? i dont want to exclude men or any other gender or race or culture
This is going to cost so much money. What’s the point if no one listens to it?
I should start right away, some one else might get the same idea or what if i never do it
Journaling Ritual: Your Inner Grinch, Kill Joy, Wet Blanket, Mean Girl, Dignity Abuser
Part 1: Is there something new you've been wanting to try? What is it?
Part 2: Picture it. And journal about the questions below.
What are the thoughts I have that squash my dignity?
What are my beliefs that throw water on my delicate spark of joy?
What is the thought that pulls me out of my inner quiet place?
Where do I think I’m a bother to other people by doing this new thing?
For example - I thought the world didn’t need one more podcast and I’d just be adding to the noise
What are the safety nets/guardrails/training wheels for my endeavor?
Who are my experienced allies, professionals, etc. I can rely on to be honest, loving, competent, and supportive in my endeavor?
What are the things I think are cringey or cheesey about myself?
Where do I need to marinate instead of rush in? Where can I just take my time?
What is one thought that honors my dignity?
Maybe go back and listen to this episode again to find that thought. Or maybe it’s a quote from a book you like.
For example - one of my favorite things to say to myself right now is I can’t carry another’s karma for them.
You may need to post this dignity honoring thought up some where where you can see it
You can also say it to yourself while driving, as an affirmation every morning, etc.
Part 3: Book recommendation - The Artists Way by Julia Cameron. No, it’s not just for artists. It’s about making your life your work for at. If there’s one book you should read before you die, it’s this one.
until next time,
may you develop a more complete trust in all the things that expand your honor, integrity and esteem
Dilshad